FIVE ESSENTIAL QUALITIES

FIVE ESSENTIAL QUALITIES

From the creation of the world man had existed. Different era had produced different traits. But in our dispensation we need to know how to handle our relationships so that we have a generation we planned to come. Procreation is a function of a man and a woman. And one of the duties of men is the approach. Although some are so shy they hide under some excuses waiting for the woman to walk up to them ………. I wish I was a lady; you’ll die single. And for those who approach; they might just be lions in sheep clothing.

There are essential qualities one has to look for in a man to know if he could be the one to usher you into the promised land of marriage. Wolfax diaries have done its research and conclusively come to this juncture. The following are our findings:

·         Honesty: honesty is a trait so uncommon in the world we live in today. Both men and women live in dishonesty but the guy who says the truth always is the guy who has nothing to hide. There is a popular saying “when you say the truth you don’t have to remember anything” Mark Twain. A man who cannot tell the truth about himself cannot tell it about anyone else. A lying tongue cannot produce an open heart. Be wise when you keep finding out things he once lied about. You might just be in a relationship with who never existed. 

·         Communication: talk is cheap; a popular saying by mentors who have guided me. Many ladies think communication is talking. There is a need that is attached to those speeches these guys make every day to you. Men can talk for ages with you without a corresponding action to back up those words that fly out of their mouth. Don’t get me too wrong, I don’t mean talking isn’t a tool of communication but in determining as a quality for a lasting relationship/ marriage….. naa Negotiation, Boundaries and Agreement. Some men are storytellers, whatever you say is yes and with their sugar coated mouths they just thrill you into submissions you cannot understand. Any healthy relationship needs a good process for negotiation. Effective negotiation can help both. Part of the negotiations might be exploring each other personal boundaries and determining the boundaries for the relationship. Establish the no go areas in the relationship. Using the skills of negotiation to discuss boundaries and rules in a relationship can lead to a relationship agreement. This may sound too clinical and unromantic but clear rules and boundaries are a good foundation for a healthy and happy relationship.

·         Respect: many ladies just get the concept wrong. How does a man respect you? And one said when he gives me breakfast in bed. No, far from it, that’s been romantic. When a man understands your worth; he respects you. The value a man plays with around you is the worth attached to you. A man that respects you can’t stand you being disrespected. When your supposed boyfriend seems not to be confident of you in the presence of his friends then respect is missing. A man that shouts at you irrespective of where you are is far from respecting you. When your opinions seems like nonsense to him, then you need to flip the pages. Although it’s believed respect is earned but at what price must you pay before you earn it. Don’t start what you would regret. It’s better to be single than be in a relationship that lacks esteem.

·         Unconditional love: looks disappear but love doesn't. he might be attracted to your beautiful face and sexy body but I tell you; it doesn't last forever. A man worthy of settling down with should be a man who loves you without reasons. He must have the ability to forgive even what you’ve not done wrong. Affections without limitations is a trait needed in a man to permit him into your life. He must see you beyond a sex partner and know you are more than a friend. it doesn't happen all at  once but a man that chooses to set his mind on that would be known from the beginning. 

·         God fearing: the word God fearing doesn't mean you shake when you see God. It means you put God in front of everything in your life. A man who loves you more than God is not the right person. He invites you over on a Saturday and gets you drunk thus you miss worship on Sunday, and he doesn't feel anything. He complains about prayers and doesn't consider morals. Then don’t get into it. A man you must marry must respect God and keep His commandments. I think  should know better.

I think I might be doing someone good when you read this and pass it across to your friends also. The tricks are much but we’ve summarized it. But there is a question I’ll love to ask. Does any young man posses all these truly? 

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