Recently I got into an argument with
a friend and in all time spent I discovered that perception is a tool for
seeing differently from another person. It's like beauty that they say it lies
in the eyes of the beholder. I went ahead to ask one question what of ugliness?
The answer was simple……. Ugliness is just a degree of beauty that drives most
into the negative part of our sights. The truth goes further to expatiate that
what lies within could cover up for what is on the outside. Which means there
are virtues one can have, to cover up with the degree of beauty one possesses.
Same with the beautiful people; beauty without brains….. hmmmmm.
I have a friend who in all realities
of love at first sight she would score zero. The beauty and the curves that lie
on her face are negative in sight. The defects are not accidental, they are
natural. She now lacks the virtues of good socialization but possesses almost
all the vices of environmental communication.
We sought a religious explanation to
her supposed problems and the session we had with the pastor produced these
results
The religious leader listed the
following as virtues and vices respectively.
Virtues: humility, liberality and
mercy, chastity and continence, patience and meekness, temperance, abstinence
and self control, love of God, love of neighbour and love of enemy, fortitude
and courage.
The vices are: pride, greed, lust,
anger, gluttony, envy and sloth.
As much as I believe we all
understand the virtues just listed I have a conviction that we don't all
understand the unethical stands of the vices. He went further by explaining the
following as it affects her
No 1 Pride: whenever you see yourself
talking about a guy and you say am I your mate or I'm not your class. You have
pride in you. That moment you see yourself better than the guy you should have
married based on the fact that you see yourself as better than who you really
are. You loose on a perception prideful thought. This has affected many ladies
who today are thirty and above but don't know where the issue started from.
No 2 Greed: whenever you wish you had
the boyfriend or husband your friend had instead of appreciating the one God has
given you, my sister greed has set in. you might end up sleeping with all your
friend's boyfriend before you discover you have left your future based on the
greed that lies within you. It's a vice try to stop it
No 3 lust: excessive sexual desire.
"Lust detracts from true love". As many ladies read this they know
within themselves they are professionals in this particular adventure. Lust is
involvement in sexual acts and adventures for no genuine reason. Money is no
good reason for lowering your potentials in front of a man. If you persist in these
acts; I can be so sure you've made your husband your customer.
No 4 Anger: in the Nigerian context you'll hear some
ladies with these slogans “he is just so annoying”. I can't stand him any
longer. All these are reactions from little incidences that even the devil can
forgive and we hold it so strong that we loose our future to a supposed
temporary act. For going out there to watch soccer with his friends; you can’t
stand him any longer. Hmmm my sister your reward is in heaven.
No 5 Gluttony: I need to be really
particular about this Oliver twist kind of ladies. No man like s you for eating
and drinking like a fool. Whenever you are around you are hungry and when he
takes you out, you drink more than him and his friends added together. He will
definitely run away one day because for him to have savings and build a future;
you mustn't exist in his life.
No 6 Envy: these are people who
sorrow over another person's good. When you have sadness over another person's
success….. My sister you are envious and you have to stop . It includes both
sorrow at the prosperity of others and joy in their hurt. A person who has envy
in his heart sorrows at the good fortune of others because she regards it as a
hindrance to her own good. The truth is your friend's fiancée wouldn't have
married you if he didn't marry her. God will provide for you the real man just
stop being envious.
No 7 Sloth: laziness many don't know
is a sin. Some ladies are in the habit iof postponing everything. Even
washing of their underwear can be postponed. They are lazy in every other thing
apart from pleasure. Sloth is extreme laziness when it comes to God’s issues
but it goes further in respect to our environment. They find it so hard to do
good because it has no reward and they are loosing a future based on that.
When he finished he asked her in all
truthfulness; how many of this do you think you have as a vice and her response
was all. Let’s all take a moment and check ourselves and see how many of these
lie within us and then we’ll understand why we need change to affect our future
