ANOTHER FIVE ESSENTIAL QUALITIES

Don’t fool yourself things would improve after marriage; many people carry a lot of baggage from their relationships into marriage. The expectations would be cut short with extreme misbehaviors and you wonder if you married the same woman. People have this need to change the other person into the type of person they think would be right for them.

Marriage changes everything. Do not fool yourself into thinking that you can change her, or diminish this trait, rather you change for your woman. 

Sincerely, relativity comes to play when we talk about a valued practice as great as marriage. Thus this writing is predominantly thinking about an African marriage. What are the traits a lady must possess for her to be the right one. Wolfax diaries went all out again gathering all the information to know the mind of men about settling down with the right person. We filtered the wrongly impressed opinions of some who believe a lady should be a sex tool or others that believe she is a reproductive tool. A woman is more than that. We conclude by saying the following are five essential qualities a lady must possess:

·         Commitment: don’t put all your eggs in one basket they say but don’t also spread all your eggs in all baskets. When you get into a relationship; be sure of it so you don’t have to change it all the time. Since marriage is an age affair in Africa and being single at thirty comes with a stigma; lots of women pretend to be someone else just to bear your surname but the truth it doesn't help on the long run. Ladies be sure men look out for commitment in relationship. Don’t be a double minded lady. Stop thinking of Chukwuma and Segun at the same time. Don’t build a relationship that could go either way. When men find out that happened you’ve lost the trust. 

·         Be loyal and honest: to be truthful; there is gender inequality in Africa. Don’t bea freedom fighter that would change it. Men are a little higher than women in the house. Even the bible teaches us that, thus don’t try to be the man in the house. Lots of ladies expose a scene of independence and that pisses a man off. Colossians 3:18 “women submit yourselves to your husband”. If the bible is the basis of what you are about to go into then why compare yourselves with some other people. A deeper thought showed that a loyal woman is an honest woman. Whoever you are loyal to, you are honest to. Tenderness and softness in your attitude is something which your husband will never tire of .If you talk in a loud voice and behave in a manly manner, it will put him off. If you are utterly feminine in your behavior and have the capacity to boost his ego, then he becomes totally obsessed by you .Today the modern woman overlook this most important characteristic of marriage and go on about equality and women’s right. Many men are ready to share their position with women in the house, but don’t fight for it. 

·         Be a good maid: cleanliness is next to godliness. A trait you must never overlook is the trait of a maid in the house. If your wife can’t take care of a one bedroom apartment; I promise you she can’t manage a three bedded apartment. Neatness keeps a man at home and makes his mood better. Care is the most important aspect that your husband seeks after marriage. He seeks a mother in you and if you are able to satisfy his yearning of a maternal love, he feels satisfied and secure in his marriage. You should cook his desired dish and you will get reciprocal feedback of pleased love from him. If you cook an indifferent meal, you get an apathetic and resentful silence from him. A man always feels cared for if his wife takes efforts to cook food which appeals to him and feels unloved when he is served an indifferent food. A woman who is a good maid takes charge of his house even when the man thinks he is in charge.

·         Stop nagging: you are still in a relationship and he is considering spending the rest of his life with you but all you give in return is a nagging attitude. You keep telling him what he did wrong and you keep repeating it. You should understand that a man never bows for nagging. Nagging and complaining constantly may create an unwanted rift in your relationship. It can also become a vicious cycle forcing him to avoid you. This will definitely complicate the things between you and make them worse. How do you expect him to like you if he feels personally attacked by your nagging? Nagging doesn’t work, so just quit it.

·         Share his faith: Marry a girl who shares your belief of God. This is the most fundamental step to consider. I will guarantee you a marriage of growing anxiety and misery if you marry a girl who does not believe in the God you worship. Also, God doesn’t approve either. Even the bible tells us not to be unequally yoked. If you can share things physically; you must be able to share spiritually. Although I’ve seen families grow with the parents having different faiths but I’ve seen more crash in different faiths. 

Finally, we believe these are the top five qualities a woman needs posses to pass the test of getting a good husband. Real men see beyond the curves they see the future they are accepting with you. Don’t assume formlessness with your man, be real and be African. If it takes you to kneel down and appeal; I tell you the truth he’ll buy you the Bentley…… don’t ask for too much also.

I think I’ve helped someone understand clearer